Did he really Tell his Wife About our Affair
It did occur to me as I cleared up the typos adn speling misstakes that an alternative interpretation could be placed on the search on those four words: Tell, wife, about and affair...
What if the search were being done by some 'other' woman who is growing impatient and doubtful about her lover. It isn't true that they never leave the wife, but fewer do than stay in the nest.
That charming creature with the wife at home who doesn't understand him or no longer loves him or hasn't put out for him in years ... what she's putting up with, what you never see is that beneath the veneer he's just another paunchy, balding bloke who leaves dribbles of piss on the toilet seat and clothes all over the house, who's never washed a dish in his life or cleaned up after he's cooked, or done a single chore about the house without being asked a hundred times or so - and that's if you're lucky.
If you're unlucky he's a liar and a thief with habits straight out of Animal House and a taste for porn involving females who look barely pubescent.
It must seem easy to be charming with someone who doesn't know the truth.
What if the search were being done by some 'other' woman who is growing impatient and doubtful about her lover. It isn't true that they never leave the wife, but fewer do than stay in the nest.
That charming creature with the wife at home who doesn't understand him or no longer loves him or hasn't put out for him in years ... what she's putting up with, what you never see is that beneath the veneer he's just another paunchy, balding bloke who leaves dribbles of piss on the toilet seat and clothes all over the house, who's never washed a dish in his life or cleaned up after he's cooked, or done a single chore about the house without being asked a hundred times or so - and that's if you're lucky.
If you're unlucky he's a liar and a thief with habits straight out of Animal House and a taste for porn involving females who look barely pubescent.
It must seem easy to be charming with someone who doesn't know the truth.
posted by Enyo @ 11:49 am
1 Comments:
At 2:26 am,
Ashamed Other Woman said…
Im sorry to have stumbled upon this so many years after it is posted, but it is what I needed to read tonight. My boyfriend of a year and a half is not extra special, he's not rich, he' not extra handsome. But he was kind and attentive and receptive to me, and so I became involved with him, knowing he had been married for 23 years, and had two twin girls (16 years old) and a 20 year old son. I often wondered if he would ever tell his wife, and I often begged him too, as I felt horrible about the affair. I pleaded with him to be honest with her, to break things off with me and to really work on his marriage. I thought he really needed to open up and connect to her again to see if they could save their marriage, without a lover on the side to give him all the closeness and sex, and appreciation he needed. But, I have learned that he never did. He calls himself a coward, and I used to tell him it wasnt true, but I see now he is right. He is a coward for not telling her, for not begging for her forgiveness and putting in the real work and commitment to his marriage. 23 years and they go by routine, they are not close, but are so comfortable, neither wants to rock the boat. Now, I have learned that I am pregnant, and I wonder if I should tell his wife or not? I feel like a monster. I feel like a low life, and I hate myself for not staying away from him and forcing him to make a clean choice. But when we met I was sad, and lonely, and extremely depressed, and he was kind and gentle and in many ways he brought me back to life. If it sounds like I was pathetic, its because I was. I cannot know what drives other women, I can only know what happened with me. Is it enough to say that you are sorry? Is their an apology or words, actions, or deeds that could show the wife that you are sincerely remorseful? I cannot feel any worse about myself than I do, and sometimes I wish I could let his wife throw rocks at me, kick me, or yell at me until she is dizzy. But would that help?
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