Good news bad news
I had a visit from a friend of a friend. This older woman had news of my friend who I haven't seen much of since spring for the simple reason that back then she had her first baby who unfortunately was born with a host of serious complications. Most of these had been anticipated due to the wonders of modern medical technology but I have to say that having seen what my friend K and her husband have been through I'm not sure that things are better for people like them than they once were.
A hundred years ago their little girl would have been born and died not long after - and because all of the problems were internal and therefore invisible to the naked eye it would have been put down to 'one of those things' or 'God's Will'. They'd have mourned decently and then got on with the pleasant business of producing another one.
Instead they spent the near entire duration of the pregnancy going up to London to consult one expert after another - one of for the heart, one for this one for that one for the other. And each interpreted the bloods and scans differently. K and her husband got a different spin on things each week and didn't know what to expect.
Then when their little girl was scheduled to be delivered no bed was available. She was born later than planned but still early. She's still in hospital. She's in a hospital closer to home now which means she's been liberated from the high dependency highly specialist London unit which is a vote of confidence. Unfortunately this isn't the first time she's been this close to home. There was a time in late spring early summer when we hoped that she'd be back her before the end of summer. Now we'd like her back for Christmas. Another set back and it will be 'please let her spend her first birthday at home'. K and her husband who have been and will continue to make great parents won't have another one. This has all been too much for them.
On balance though the news about K and hubby and baby was all positive. Then tonight I learned that the husband of a work colleague was in a road accident, a collision with a tractor on a bend on an unrestricted road.
He's in hospital tonight with his wife at his bedside. She isn't English and she has no familiy in this country. Her closest friend is looking after their 18 month old baby tonight; I saw the pair of them and stopped for a chat. The little girl is utterly oblivious to the fact that her father is in hospital fighting for his life; mummy is usually at work in the evenings so in that respect tonight was just a normal night.
Lots and lots to ponder as I go to sleep. Good night. God bless K and S and baby N, and also M and S and their little girl.
A hundred years ago their little girl would have been born and died not long after - and because all of the problems were internal and therefore invisible to the naked eye it would have been put down to 'one of those things' or 'God's Will'. They'd have mourned decently and then got on with the pleasant business of producing another one.
Instead they spent the near entire duration of the pregnancy going up to London to consult one expert after another - one of for the heart, one for this one for that one for the other. And each interpreted the bloods and scans differently. K and her husband got a different spin on things each week and didn't know what to expect.
Then when their little girl was scheduled to be delivered no bed was available. She was born later than planned but still early. She's still in hospital. She's in a hospital closer to home now which means she's been liberated from the high dependency highly specialist London unit which is a vote of confidence. Unfortunately this isn't the first time she's been this close to home. There was a time in late spring early summer when we hoped that she'd be back her before the end of summer. Now we'd like her back for Christmas. Another set back and it will be 'please let her spend her first birthday at home'. K and her husband who have been and will continue to make great parents won't have another one. This has all been too much for them.
On balance though the news about K and hubby and baby was all positive. Then tonight I learned that the husband of a work colleague was in a road accident, a collision with a tractor on a bend on an unrestricted road.
He's in hospital tonight with his wife at his bedside. She isn't English and she has no familiy in this country. Her closest friend is looking after their 18 month old baby tonight; I saw the pair of them and stopped for a chat. The little girl is utterly oblivious to the fact that her father is in hospital fighting for his life; mummy is usually at work in the evenings so in that respect tonight was just a normal night.
Lots and lots to ponder as I go to sleep. Good night. God bless K and S and baby N, and also M and S and their little girl.
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